From dating to commited
Now, this does NOT mean you should boss him around.But he’ll probably appreciate it if you do a share of the date-planning.He says that we met inside the house and after that we stayed outside just me and him talking the entire time and we had a fun time just talking and he today tells me that from that night on he had to have me that he had to make me his, well, he didn’t quite make that happen.I guess I just wasn’t interested at the time or it just wasn’t time for us to happen yet you know.My boyfriend is a soldier in the United States Army. Understand that these guys have to deal with things that the average person couldn’t imagine.Though I’m no stranger to military men (my grandfather, father and brother were all enlisted), this is the first time I have dated a soldier. I’ve seen a lot of websites that list ten things an Army girlfriend should remember and do, and some of them made great points. And your honey could be shipped out at any time, for months or years. Many of these are difficult and sometimes disturbing. If he wants to talk about his life in the Army, be it the crazy times with the guys in his unit, the tedium of the everyday, or even the tougher times, let him be the one to broach the subject.
Your guys may not get why you can’t hang until three in the morning anymore. For someone they care about to dump on those ideals is like a kick in the gut with a steel-toed boot. I used to love the miniseries Band of Brothers, and would occasionally turn it on in the background if I I was working. This will probably be true for you, and even your guy, as well. I will not see him again until January when his Basic and his AIT is finished. My car is now decked out in Army logos and I’ve written on my car windows that I’m a proud Army Girlfriend.
I would get a phone call sometimes in the beginning and then instead of a phone call I would get a My Space message ever so often and then a My Space message like once a year not really saying much just “Hey, how u doing? He says that I never would write back but I’m sure I did.
About 4 1/2 – 5 years pass and through out those years I thought about him sometimes like wondering where he’s at, what’s he doing, if there could have actually been something between us, but I never dwelled on anything I blamed it on being bored on My Space looking at people’s profile lol.
Curious as to what I was in for, and wanting some solid guidance, I went looking for advice on how to be a good Army girlfriend. However, in my own time as an Army girlfriend, I’ve come upon a few revelations of my own. Dating a soldier is a commitment, and not one to be taken lightly. Above all, talk to people who’ve lived it and ask them to be honest. If you’re not ready for to be an Army girlfriend and all that it entails, break it off. As soon as my guy used the g-word, I hit the keyboard and called my sister-in-law (retired Army wife extraordinaire). Soldiers work long hours that they have absolutely no control over. If you’re one of those girls who always needs a guy on her arm, get used to disappointment. You’ll have time for your friends, family, hobbies and work. And odds are, one of the reasons his time with you means so much to him is because it’s one of the few times he can get away from that life. My boyfriend and I have plenty to talk about, from video games to the funny cashier at the grocery store, and I never bring up the Army to any extent greater than asking him how his day went. If your man is ready to introduce you to the guys in his unit and/or regiment, it’s a big step.
What follows is some humble advice on how to cope with being the significant other of soldier. If you and your soldier are ready to enter a relationship, make sure you know exactly what you’re getting into. Both gave me a wealth of knowledge I otherwise would not have had. The time he has for you will be dictated by someone else entirely. Concentrate on these, and appreciate the time he’s allowed to have with you. And when he does let me in on the other things, I try to listen and not pry. Men who are stationed together are often closer than brothers. Don’t cling to your man like a backpack, and don’t emasculate him in front of his guys.