If you are an ardent reader of Bella Naija you’ll be familiar with the pre-wedding shoot posts of couples with different cultural backgrounds.I think love is color blind, and we should see past the complexion of each other’s skin.More than likely it is not personal on your family’s part but deeply ingrained attitudes that have become a part of their psyche. I’m of the opinion that we should be open minded and consider dating not just outside your tribe, but outside of your race completely.I was reading up on this the other day and I found a few statements and questions people in interracial relationships say they have been asked. (*covers-face*) Just know this, I wasn’t dissapointed.A friend of mine complained one time of not finding a man in Nigeria and I gave this same advice. (Acts -26) To buttress this, there is only one race – the human race).Your decision of a partner should be based on a person’s character, and not the color of their skin.
At my mom’s house over the weekend, we had family around and I was talking about some of my friends- some of whom are bi-racial. I totally understand if the individual was meeting the family for the first time and didn’t know anyone, but if it’s someone who was familiar with everyone and got on well with us why it would be awkward?
It is tempting to feel resentful and angry towards your parents but keep in mind that they love you and want what is best for you.
Your parents have your best interests at heart and for that reason are being protective of you.
Back in the 1950s and 1960s young people were encouraged to date and marry a person who was of the same race, religion, culture and socioeconomic background.
For some people “old habits die hard” and as the years pass they adhere to the same ideas and want their children to follow their example.
It is necessary to ask yourself how important it is to you for your family to accept your date.