For every rule, there is an exception, and is the case with my statement in the opening paragraph.The exception is based on Peck and Epstein’s assertion that every great relationship can survive one break up. Dating can be hard, especially because so much of it, despite all of our effort and most optimistic energy, turns out to be a giant waste of time.
That is when dating can truly turn into a huge waste of time for you and everyone else involved.But when you're not even thinking about the future in a "when am I going to see them next weekend?" kind of way, then you're probably (definitely) wasting your time.Hasn’t sure made a pretty good argument for it in “The One That Got Away.” Andy tried to set the rules, oblivious to the fact that she was trying to keep a secret that my dog could have figured out (He did, as a matter of fact, but then again, he’s in the Team Swarek camp too).In an effort to control the situation, all she managed to do was bring a focus on her private life, and alienate her friends.
All of that is important, and we should value the experiences that give us that information, even if those "experiences" involve having nothing to talk about with someone who smells bad and makes racist jokes.